Global Metaphors

Figure of speech that usually implies that comparison between two things that really aren’t alike
Cf. Broken heart
We don’t experience reality; we experience our representation of reality: We have emotional reactions to however we represent our world
Metaphor is a way of transferring understanding by taking something that we already understand and attaching it to a new idea
Cf. Jesus Christ
We have to be selective in the metaphors that we utilize
Is / Like / As
Cf. “What is life like?”
Cf. “I’m blacking out.”
We oftentimes make metaphors as if they are real. They are just figures of speech. We respond to them like they are real.
”I’m at the end of the rope.” → Put the rope down and walk away

Whenever we have a pattern of looking at the world, or making things up in our heads, we do something radical to interrupt that pattern, and keep interrupting it, pretty soon we can’t get back into it. Anytime you find you constructed your world in a way that creates limitations, interrupt it, and replace with power, with something loving, fun.

Be flexible in using metaphors: What you’re doing isn’t working, change your metaphors.
Cf. Stonecutter: Just because you’re not getting feedback you want initially doesn’t mean that you’re making progress.
Whether people know or not, they’ve got metaphors for themselves
Consciously select your own metaphors
Cf. Success coach
Cf. PIE Trucking Service
Anytime you hear a metaphor that creates limits, just step in and offer a new one. Offer a new possibility. Break a pattern and give him a new choice including yourself.

Write down:

What is life? Write all of them down.
If life is this, then what does it mean to me?
All the metaphors that you link to relationship or marriage
Take a look at those metaphors. Are they empowering or disempowering?
Take another area of life that impacts you most. Cf. What is learning for yourself?
Create new ones that you’ve never thought of before and decide you’re gonna live those for the next 30 days.

Unconscious system for evaluating what things mean and what we should do

It’s determining our actions every day, therefore our destiny.

State that you’re in mentally and emotionally
Questions you ask yourself: “How can I turn this around?” “How can I utilize this experience to make my life greater?”
Values
Belief systems: All of these preconceived notions that we developed within ourselves are filtering our experience of life on a daily basis
References (experiences of your life)

a) Conscious experience

b) Unconscious experience (filtered inside your brain)

Giant file box in your brain with everything that you’ve seen, heard, tasted, touched, smelled is all stored

Organized references: Beliefs (feeling of certainty about what something means)

Cf. “I believe I’m really intelligent.”

References: Legs of belief
Cf. “I’m sexy:” We can take references for virtually anything, then make them back up any idea we want.
Our references are shaping our life. Most of us are not paying attention to how we are interpreting references much less focusing on how we get the references we need in order to success and achieve our goals

Your imagination is a source of references: Anyone who’s created anything had to create a sense of certainty within themselves if they could achieve that they go (?)

Cf. Columbus

Your imagination is 10 times more powerful than your willpower.

Cf. Lee Iacocca

Cf. Akio Morita: He focused in his mind on what he wanted things to be right and he believed with absolute faith and certainty his vision (?).

Because you haven’t done something doesn’t mean that you can’t.
Because you try something and fail again and again doesn’t mean the next time you won’t succeed.
The past does not equal the future.
It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.
Whatever you’re feeling is what you’re focusing on.
You can borrow references of other people.
Cf. Les Misérables
Limited references create limited life.
Cf. Joe Fritz’s (?) widow: “Everyday we gotta live to our fullest together.”
References are not real: they are only what you’ve focused on. What you pull from them is what’s gonna shape your life.
If you take events of today, and put meaning on them immediately, you may be prejudging. Maybe your bad days aren’t so bad after all.
Loss is imaginary. Everything in the universe only changes form. Nothing ever disappears. “Even though I don’t know what this has happened, I’m willing to trust. Someday I will. I’m willing to trust my creator.” − leap of faith. Cf. Billy Joel “God’s delays are not God’s denials.” Cf. Mr. Morita
You’re gonna have good days and you’re gonna have bad days. You’re not gonna know which ones they really are until much later in your life.
Look for beliefs that empower you. “What would I have to believe in order to feel this way?” Awareness alone can be curative.
False Evidence that Appears Real

Expand your life by expanding your references.

Negative thinking, if you look at it positively, can also create.

Giving up is the ultimate danger.
The power of positive thinking: The ability to generate a feeling of certainty in yourself when nothing in your environment supports you.
Learn to create certainty in the face of fear.
Out of fear, most people constantly focus on the worst that could happen.
“Getting excited, really going for it equals pain. I’d better not even try.”
What we think about daily is what’s determining how we feel, what actions we take and therefore, each day what we think about is shaping our destiny.
Friends can poison you.
We’ve gotta watch our minds. Gravity is constant; negativity is constant.
You want to find a problem in somebody you care about, you’ll find it. “Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find.”
Be “realistic.” = Be negative.

Step #1 in Life

See life as it is.

Step #2

See it better than it is.

Step #3

Make it the way you want it.

5 steps to utilize the power of positive thinking and use negative thinking in an assignment.

Step 1

Focus on what’s right instead of what’s wrong

Focus on what you do have instead of what you don’t have

Make it a habit; habits form the chain of your ultimate character

Go on a mental diet
“Seven Day Mental Diet”
Immediately focus on something good
Immediately do not allow yourself to hold a negative feeling and a negative thought for 7 straight days

Be positive about solutions instead of problems

Notice what’s great about a situation

Step 2

Decide to become curious about others instead of judgmental

If you judge other people, you’re judging yourself intensely
If you’re angry with other people, you’re angry with yourself

“He was without sin; let him cast the first stone.”

Free yourself from the disease of making others wrong and free yourself from the disease of making yourself wrong

Step 3

Find something to appreciate from any seemingly negative person or situation and develop the habit of giving compliments

Toughest times in your life sometimes provide you with the real resources to change your life
Appreciate where we are right now

Seeing what you don’t have is sometimes useful, too
Appreciate what isn’t working
Balance between positive and negative thinking on human scale: 98% of the times positive; 2% critical in thinking

Step 4

Decide not to be perfect

Instead of being negative and beating yourself: “Here’s another example of me sabotaging myself,“ decide what you do want
“I’m not perfect, but I’m good.”
“As soon as I notice I’m not on track, I correct it and I get better.”
Your goal each is to get better, not to be perfect.
If you don’t make a catastrophe, it’s easier to bounce right back up
Only way to fail is if you quit

Step 5

Decide to develop the habit of using ‘faith’

Create certainty inside yourself
I’m going to have courage to overcome my fears and to take actions
“You have made it this far.”

Faith is your ultimate power

Information X Focus = Personal Reality

Garbage in; garbage out
Bad news sells
Nay saying is not new
Cf. Walt Disney got turned down 302 bankers
Cf. Rain man
A person’s reality is completely controlled by the information that you have available to you and you have focused upon
Pursue the quality information that would nourish your life
Learn to trust your instinct
Cf. John Templeton
There’s a price for going with the flow, and that price is the pain of giving up your dreams and taking the fall of those who failed to think for themselves (?) must’ve been an inevitable experience.

It’s not what happens. It’s what you do with what happens in your life that shapes your life.

Power of Identity

We’ll behave consistent with our identity even if our identity is negative

Who are you?

Your beliefs control your behavior. Cf. frog & scorpion
Your behavior is consistent with your identity even if the identity is negative.
Be careful with the label that you create for yourself or you allow others to give you
In our culture, consistency is constantly rewarded: tends to walk you into whatever identity that you used to have
The level of thinking that has gotten you where you are is not what is going to get us to where we want to go

Consciously define yourself

Once you define them that way, nothing is going to change your opinion; once you put that label upon yourself, your future behavior and therefore the results of your life will be colored by it. Cf. Korean war

In your gut, who are you?
- Are you a leader or are you a follower?
- Are you a person that makes a difference or are you a victim?
- Are you someone who constantly tries to figure out how to grow or are you somebody who is constantly looking for an excuse?
- Are you merely a collection of “have-it” patterns or something deeper, something richer?
- Are you merely your past or who you’re defining it now?

Those elements that you use to describe yourself with conviction = identity

Start with how you already define yourself

1) Job, role

2) Emotion

3) Occupation

4) Metaphor

5) Feedback from the past

6) Spiritual beliefs

7) Looks

8) Accomplishments

9) Future

Essence of your life

Write who you are, describe yourself to yourself

Most are not conscious about what our beliefs are about who we are
If we get conscious about our beliefs, take a real good look, we’re merely start seeing what the limitations are in our beliefs, and we’ll also see some of the benefits.

How would you be if you’re already living your dream?

Go out and do some of the things that the person like this would do

Ritual

You gotta such a conviction about who you are that nobody can sway you
You know who you are inside regardless whether you are going to get results or not in the short term
Cf. Kunta Kinte, Bar Mitzvah, Bat Mitzvah
Think of what would be a nice ritual for you

Your life is defined by your beliefs, your convictions of who you are; your perception of who you are. That is what’s gotta change.

Find out first what you’ve been believing about yourself
You can find references to back up the idea that anybody is a good person or anybody is a bad person.
Begin to question those limiting beliefs
”Am I my past or am I who I decide to be now?” You’re cut out for whatever you decided to be cut out for

Emotions are the ultimate power

How do you deal with your emotions right now?

Avoid them
If you are always trying to avoid rejection, you’re never going to succeed
Ultimate fear of rejection keeps people out of relationships
You can’t ever avoid completely negative rejections, and they cause us to grow
Endure it (but deny it)
This erupts
Use it for competition
Learn from them, and utilize them
You feel loved because you choose at that moment to create those feelings within yourself. You have some rules, some criteria that say when XYZ happens, then I get to feel loved.

What we feel is not based on our experience, but again on our interpretation of our experience

When we don’t follow our own rules, don’t live by our own values, by own life standards, we certainly give ourselves pain as a way to keep ourselves on track
Negative emotions are a signal that a change is needed.
A signal of fear is you must prepare.

Every emotion has a message for you.

Identify what the emotion is
Acknowledge and appreciate the message it’s offering you
Get curious about what it’s offering you
Get yourself to feel reassured by seeing “Hey, you’ve worked this out in the past. You’ve made it through this before.”
Get yourself certain that you can handle anything like it in the future by rehearsing using this emotion as empowerment
Take action and change all your life

Take and create a model for each category of emotion

Uncomfortable: boredom, impatient, uneasy, distressed, mildly embarrassed
Fear: concern, apprehension, worry, anxiety, scared, terrified
Hurt: Comes from a sense of loss
Anger: mildly irritated, angry, livid, resentful, furious, enraged
Frustration: held back or hindered
Disappointment: sad, defeated as a result of something you expect but didn’t work out very well
Guilt & regret
Inadequacy: less man, unworthy
Overloaded: overwhelmed, hopeless, depressed
Lonely: “separate from”

How would you feel if you know you can instantly get out of that feeling no matter how intense that event?

To master your emotion

Identify the signal: Figure out which one of these categories does it go into
Get down to the core emotion that really is controlling you
Action signals: reevaluate the way you are perceiving something or the way you are preceding, the way you communicate your feelings to other people or the way you are behaving around other people or situation
Cf. Rejection

1) Uncomfortable

2) Change your state

3) Clarify what you want

4) Take action in that direction: Communicate your desire or do something that expresses it

5) Make sure you do something until you achieve what you want and you’re no longer uncomfortable

1) Hurt

2) There is expectation that you have has not been met: A sense of loss

3) Clarify what has to be changed

4) Negative emotion → action signal

a) Perception: Do we have some rules that are inappropriate in this situation?

b) Procedure: Change the way you communicate; the way you’re behaving

Cf. If you ignore signal a message, one of these action signals: hurt, fearful, angry, frustrated, disappointed, overloaded, that signal intensifies

Appreciate the message. Respect that emotion

Message 10 Signals Give You

Uncomfortable
Change your state
Clarify what you want
Take action in the direction of what you want

Fear: concern, apprehension, worry, anxiety, scared, frightened, terrified
Prepare yourself to deal with something or avoid the negative consequences of something that’s coming up
Cf. fear of failure: valuable fear
Cf. IRS, speech

As prepared as you can get: Have some faith

Change your perception
Decide to become confident to focus on it working instead of not working

Hurt
Your expectation has not been met
Evaluate if it really is a loss here
Change your way to communicate your needs or your behavior

Anger: irritation, livid, furious, enraged, resentful
Your important rule has been violated by someone else or even you
Communicate that’s only your rule but you need their help: Change the way you’re communicating; change your procedure

Anger is usually an outward (?) hurt

You’ve got a lot of hurt built up that you haven’t expressed them
Change your perception: Maybe the person wasn’t trying to hurt you at all

Change procedure: communicate better what your real needs are

Change you

Anger: You need to clarify what your rules are and get them to meet them or you need to compromise them possibly. Those are just your standards

Frustration
Change your approach to achieving your goals: Be flexible in the situation
Cf. Insanity: tempting to getting a new result by doing the same thing over and over again

Disappointment
Maybe you want something to happen in too short a period of time; come up with more appropriate outcome for the time that you have involved and the people that you have involved and the situation that you have involved

Guilt / regret
Guilt serves you if you hear the message: You have violated one of your own standards; you must do something immediately to ensure you’re not going to violate again in the future
If you deny the guilt & don’t get the message, the guilt is gonna come back
If you surrender the guilt, you’ll feel inferior for the rest of your life
Identify the signal: “I’m feeling regret / guilt.”
Appreciate the message: You need to change your perception / procedure or change your future behavior / way to communicate

Utilize it. Don’t wallow in it.

Inadequacy
Get excited; appreciate it’s offering you a message
You need to do something to get better in this category right away; Doesn’t mean that you have to be perfect at it

“Is this really an appropriate emotion?’ → “Am I really inadequate or do I need to change the way I’m perceiving things?” → Change your criteria: you probably have rules that are too harsh

Overloaded; overwhelmed; hopeless; depressed
Change your state (for hopeless & depression)
You need to re-evaluate what’s most important in this situation
Necessity vs. Desire
Write down all the things that are more import things to accomplish
Put them in order of priority
Take the first one on the list and do something about it.

Lonely
Connection with people

Every feeling you have, good or bad, is not based the actual reality of life, rather your interpretation of what things mean. Nothing in life has a meaning except the meaning you give it.

Define True Success to Yourself

Success comes through a consistent increase in the quality of your life
Absolute consistency creates the fabric of success for our life time
Spiritual life, Emotional life, physical life, mental life, relationships, business
Are you truly successful right now in your life?

Emotional life

Passion
Compassion
Courage;
Are you shaping yourself or allowing the environment to shape you?
Is the improvement constant?

All those incremental changes constantly come together. They accumulate to create momentum in your life.

Physical Body

Physical vitality and energy

Relationships

Either climbing or sliding: no plateau

Finances

Are you consistently finding ways to increase the quality of your economic life?

Time

Store time to increase the quality of the time that you do have instead of just complaining about there’s no time for anything

The sense of increasing qualities in every area of life

How to Change the Quality Of Life

Take action!
Get award that there’s a challenge

No matter how good something is, the only way we can enjoy the quality in our life, true success is through consistency, though consistent action

How do we get ourselves to consistently act in a way that causes us to really increase the quality of your life daily and enjoy it?

What controls all of our actions?

Decision is the father of action.
Action creates the results of our life

2 elements that control every decision you make, therefore every action you take, and therefore the increase in quality or lack thereof

Standards (values and essence)
Beliefs

CANI!

A Commitment to Constant and Never-Ending Improvement

It gets better by daily gradual improvement in each of areas of our lives
Just to keep what you have, you have to be improving: Things don’t stay static
Commit to everyday finding some small way to constantly and never-endingly improve each and every area of your life

The more you improve yourself, the more you have to give, the better you feel about yourself

Profound Knowledge

Information, strategies, or distinctions that are simple and universally applicable: The minute you understand them, you can use to increase the quality of your life

Cf. Mitsubishi Eclipse vs. Chrysler Plymouth Laser

Cf. Dr. Edward Deming: “Quality always costs less.”

The only time that you and I are happy is when we know that we’re growing, and we’re only gonna grow if everyday we’re trying to improve.

Why most people never really succeed

1) They don’t set a high enough standard

2) They believe they can achieve it

Cf. John Wooden

Master is willing to do “boring” things every single day and find a way to improve it.

Repetition with CANI! with a commitment to constant never-ending improvement creates life’s mastery.

Three Question To Ask Myself Everyday

What did I learn today?
What have I improved or contributed? Attention span, touch, focus, the way you use physiology, the way you say thank you, the way you look in someone’s eyes…
What have I enjoyed? Not taking things for granted. Not needing things to be bigger for us to be able to appreciate them.

Asking the right questions and doing it consciously and effectively…

Think about and experience and realize the power and impact of questions to change the way you feel, think, make decisions to shape the entire life
Sensitize you to the questions you’re already asking yourself
Whatever you ask for, you’ll get: “Seek and you shall receive. Ask and you shall receive.”
Develop some new question for yourself that empower you, create new possibility
“Your entire world can change at any moment in time just by asking a new question.”
Whatever I’m experiencing in life is not based on life itself, but what I’m focusing on.
Focus = reality
If you want to your reality, change your focus. If you want to change your focus, change the questions you’re asking yourself.

Whatever we’ve asked for, you’ll get an answer whether it’s true or not.

Cf. “Ask not what your country can do for you. Ask what you can do for your country.”

Cf. Martin Luther King Jr.

Cf. Theory of Relativity: What if…: possibility question

The quality of life is the quality of questions you ask yourself

If you don’t get it, keep asking. The answer will come. (Most people have the habit of asking disempowering questions.)

3 Things Accomplished By Asking Questions

Changes focus; therefore state
Cf. What could I learn from this? What do I respect about this guy? Who do I love and who loves me? What am I grateful for? What’s great in my life?
Changes what you’re considering and what you delete from your life
Human beings are deletion creatures
If you’re feeling sad, it’s because you’re deleting all the reasons you could be feeling good
Give us access to new resources, power

Questions can create momentum and questions can be used to stop momentum if you’re asking new kinds of questions

2 Kinds of Questions

Empowering questions

Provides new understanding
Focuses you on solutions instead of problems
Moves you to action
Makes you responsible (able to respond to what’s going on) and gives you the power to make a change
Makes you have a deeper sense of meaning to your life
Helps you to lean anything from the situation or helps you or other people to feel empowered

Disempowering questions

Focuses you on purely the problem and not the solution
Makes the problem bigger than really is
Makes you unresourceful to put you in a step state
Feel like you’re responsible but there’s nothing you can do about it
Endless loop: “Why me, God?”

If you want a unique experience, ask a unique question with total expectancy for answers, and if you don’t get the right answer, keep asking it with consistency and intensity.

Why me? vs. How can I use this?

Questions provide answers; questions change you life, but ask empowering questions.

Another 2 Types of Questions

Possibility questions: “What if?”

Open up your whole life

Necessity questions: “What must I do?”

The Third Way of Chucking Questions

Matching-Oriented Questions

Mismatching-Oriented Questions

“What if it doesn’t work?”
Cf. Somebody is rude to me: “How could this person dare do this to me?” → “I wonder what makes this person treat people this way?”

Think of the times when you really got upset and what were you saying to yourself?
Write down a better solution / question

Stand guard at the door of your mind

From those seeds, your tomorrow is going to grow.
It takes years to build something of value, and yet it can be destroyed in minutes.
Think like the masses; never live your dream
Success is found in that hidden area that most people won’t look at
Do something different
Trust your instinct
Social proof: Psychology of the crowd is one of fear.
B yourself.
Your vision needs to be brought to reality by continually focusing on solution, not problem.
Cf. Thomas Jefferson: The tyranny of the majority
Experts often think the same
Imagination of more powerful than intellect.
Within our view of what’s possible, we create the possible.
You gotta study what makes sense to YOU
Cf. Jim Jones: Kool-Aid
When people are not sure what to do, they look to somebody who seems to be certain, but because they are certain doesn’t mean that they are right.
Be sensitive about the sources of information that we currently have, how we pursue new information & what we focus on
Information Shapes Our Destiny

Five Information Challenges

Information is worthless without a purpose

Reticular Activating System: constantly determining what information you’re receiving from the world is significant enough for you to notice and evaluate
Cf. a new car, a new outfit
Know what your purpose is when you’re pursuing information
Get clear on your purposes of your life physically, emotionally, socially, spiritually, and in relationships, finance, and business; know what’s most important

Information deficit

What you don’t know will hurt you
It’s not enough just to be confident; you gotta be competent
Make sure you’re up to date

Information pollution

Cf. “Eating chocolate can actually reduce cavities.”
Someone is giving you information that clearly has a secondary game.
Cf. DES
Cf. Disinformation campaign
The cheapest commodity on earth is advice
It’s really easy to criticize than actually produce the results that they are talking about

Information overload

What is the best source of my information?
What information do I specifically need to get a hold of?
What is the timeline for this?

Whatever you feed on consistently will shape your life

Find someone who produces the results
All you need to do is feed your mind
Focusing on what we don’t want only causes us to drive into the very walls we’re trying to avoid
You’re in the midst of the battle between the limits of the crowd seeking the surrender of your dreams and the power of your true vision
Man is more than his environment
Dream is back up by unrelenting will to attain it is truly our reality with an eminent bearing

Master System for Creating Change

Six steps to change anything you need to change now

Change the way you feel about something
Change your behavior

Interrupt the pattern; replace with something more effective

Cf. Overwhelmed: Develop the pattern of chucking things down into bite-size steps

Decide what do you want and what’s preventing you from getting it right now

What do you want to change to? What do you really want?
Clarity as to what you truly want and what’s stopping you
You always know what’s holding you back and the minute you become aware of it you can change it
You’re linking more pain to change than staying where you are; we have this desperate need for certainty; uncertainty means you might experience even more pain: s sense of uncertainty
Jot down what up until now, what has prevented you from taking the action necessary to make this change

Change happens in a moment

Get leverage on yourself

Make your pleasant behavior or emotion so painful; change becomes an absolute must
You’re getting angry all the time; you’re doing it to yourself
Change is not a matter of capability, it’s of motivation
Secondary game: Cf. injury → attention
Feel so compelled about the thing you’re going to change to
Link pain to not changing: “What am I missing out on?”

Think about the pain what you’ve missed on & make it real

What would you get instead?

80% of making the change is having a strong enough why; 20 is knowing how

Cf. a fly on the window

Interrupt your old pattern that’s holding you back

Do something out of the ordinary, unexpected
Cf. Interrupted in your conversation; “What happened?”

Visual Scrambling Technique

Close your eyes
Think of something you’re committed to changing. Thank of some element of that. Something you really want instead. What do you want to change to? Make sure you’re committed to change this now.
See it like a normal movie.
Run it backwards fast to the beginning.
Run it forwards
Backwards
Forwards
Backwards
Cf. Pinocchio, Dumbo, weird cartoon music
20 – 25 times
Change the colors with everything in it: rainbow colors in faces
Scramble back & forward
Put a smile on your face

ü The more outrages your pattern is, the more effective it will be

Write down 10 brainstorm ideas on how to break the pattern

Circle the top 3 best & use them

Create an empowering alternative

Make your list

Condition your new pattern until it remains consistent

Whatever we re-enforce will eventually become condition within us

Our mind cannot tell the difference between something we imagine and we actually experience

Write down a couple of things you can do that it becomes a condition

Test It!

Future Pace

Sit down
Close your idea
Imaging the situation where you think that you have made the change
Notice how you feel

(Business Process) Reengineering

Regeneration

Reinvent

Vision
Decision
Communicate that this is what you’re committed to

Reengineer

How you’re gonna organize thing so that you can consistently get things this new identity

Reassure the people that are involved

Retrain

Revitalize

Take an immediate action on your plan
Never leave the sight of setting a goal without doing something towards its attainment

No one has no choice except the person who believes in it

The ability to consistently anticipate change before it occurs
We’ve gotta be able to anticipate where everyone is going around us so we can meet their needs
Paradigm: an accepted way of thinking
Cf. The world is flat
Cf. Tennis
Not only change is inevitable, but it is to our advantage
Practice CANI with the level of anticipation: innovate not just improve
Cf. Search of Excellence
Ignorance is unemployment

Five Approaches to Avoid the Traps Caught up in Your Own Paradigm & Psychology of How Human Behavior Becomes a Pattern: How we create a trend

Beware the unquestioned conviction

What was possible yesterday is probably today
Break out and at least consider another possibility

Change is certain

It’s not the change that bothers them so much, but the fact that they are ready for the change

Break our pattern of thinking in a linear fashion

You can’t assume that the status quo will remain
Thank cyclically versus linearly

Ask questions no one else has the courage to ask

Become a student of possibility, potentiality

The fastest way to get the diversity is reading

Become a student of necessity
Become a student of consequences & inevitability
Cf. Gun Vs. Knife
Become a student of cultural pain, pain in relationships, pain within businesses
Became a student of value
Cf. John Templeton: my ability to value what a company or product or service is worth

Just wait for things to happen and to try to react to them and lose the edge and experiences lots of pain
Anticipate changes and trends by noticing what’s going on around you, becoming sensitive, making a priority and utilize that information to improve the quality of your life
Become a trend creator. Become a paradigm shifter.
Cf. Bill Gates, Tom Watson

1) Get clear on what’s your vision

2) Ask questions no one is asking
Cf. Joe Barker’s Future Vision: “What’s currently impossible in my industry that if it was possible it would all the rules of the game?”
Asking this what if type of question helps you break out of the paradigm and start to create new paradigms

3) If it makes sense, break the rule
Life rewards those who contribute on a massive scale

Achieving Your Ultimate Goals

To be happy

What Is Happiness?

Nothing on the outside, neither accomplishment nor cocaine will ever make us happy long term.
You can be happy right now
An unlimited sense of happiness and joy is your natural state.
Could you just feel it?
You have these rules as to what has to happen to feel good
Life is not an outcome; it is a process

8 Keys to Unleashing Your Happiness

Happiness is a natural state

In order to be unhappy, you gotta develop false beliefs about what life is
Happiness is not a reward; the reward is life itself. Happiness is nothing but a state. Feeling good is a state of mind and emotion.

How to Claim Happiness

Change the way you’re using your body
Breathing
Facial expression: a big smile on your face
Change your focus & change the level of your happiness

Memory Management

Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning that you give it and the meaning that you give things are usually based on what you choose to focus on

Ask Happy Questions

Ask empowering questions
“Ask and you shall receive.”
Cf. “What could I be happy about if I wanted to be happy about something?” “What am I enjoying in my life right now?” “What can I be excited about if I wanted to be excited?” “What’s really wonderful about my life?” “What’s great about this?” “What’s working?”
Disempowering questions: “How must long will this last?’ “Can I survive this?” → “Will this even matter 10 years from now?’

Learn To Be a Perceiver Instead Of a Judger

Cf. a surprise birthday party
Allow yourself to perceive and wait and see what does it really mean
Many times, knowledge closes the door
“Is there any other possible meaning that this could have?” “Will be a better way of looking at this that empowers me and others?”

Learn How to Use Your Brain Instead Of Having It Use You

Principle of Contrast
Cf. shoes

Soften Your Rules

Cf. a super woman
More ways to feel happy and less way to be unhappy

Use Happy Words to Describe the Way You’re Feeling on a Consistent Basis

Develop a habitual vocabulary that is filled with words that create pleasurable emotions within you

Enjoyment, euphoria, a sense of well-being, sense of contentment, ease, comfort, coziness, gratification, satisfaction, luxury, to relish something, sweetness, entertainment, happiness, gladness, delight, joy, joyfulness, cheer, cheerfulness, exaltation, exuberance, glee, sunshine, overjoyed, intoxicated, jubilation, celebration, gladdened, feasted, fascinated, captivated, enthralled, enchanted, tickled, thrilled, basking in, starry-eyed, glowing, radiant…
Pay attention to the vocabulary you use consistently

Write down the words you want to use on a regular basis to describe how you’re feeling, how you’re doing in your life, and make sure that they are words that amplify the positive emotion

Hold Yourself to a New Standard

Adopt a belief that not to be happy is to be a failure
Being happy is the only real success; we always get what we focus on

Definition of Success

How happy are you?
How happy are the people who are around you?

You can feel so good while you build your empire. You don’t have to wait to feel good.

The world is as you see it. It’s your mind, not the world the source of all your experience.