“Life Was Never Meant to Be a Struggle”
Just a gentle progression from one point to another, much
like walking through a valley on a sunny day
by Stuart Wilde
1) The
Struggler’s Hall of Fame
The nature doesn’t struggle in sustaining itself.
Struggle is an effort laced with emotion and desperation: our physical
condition as a human involves effort.
Life is a symbol of your innermost thought and feelings:
what you believe about yourself.
When things go too easy, your inner-self admits an energy
that says “Warning! Warning!” – Experience circumstances congruent with our
inner-belief: Life is a struggle.
The Hero
1. The male
version: “I get respect. Everybody acknowledges my heroism.” ® Lack of personal acceptance stands out a
mile.
2. The terrorist
type: Because he’s uncomfortable with himself, finds he’s unable to deal
with society. Operates outside the society and finds it hard to accept
any one’s help. He wants acceptance, not success. Se he usually self-destructs
successes. He fights the system rather than uses it. He never gets what he
wants.
3. The
professional wimp: Lacking in his ability to command life, allows everybody
to tow him around by the nose.
1. The spiritual wimp: Has huge ego, sitting around, being
special. His failure threatens people. Expect people to treat him life God.
4. The Goddess: achieves
the male counterpart. “Please, accept me for I’m great.”=”I know I’m weaker.”
1. Wilty wallflower: She creates more and more dramatic scenario
of helplessness in order to get attention. She pulls out a litany of disasters.
She just wants you to commiserate.
å They’re all stupid. They are playing out their facets of their personality.
2) Identifying
Struggle
The first step in reducing struggle is identifying it. Go
into every aspect of your life. Evaluate what you get out of it in relation to
what you put in.
“Strugglometer”
1. Physical body: Weaknesses allow you to enjoy the journey more fully.
2. Emotional
balance: “If I create enough fuss, will you love me?” Be more forgiving of
yourself. More detached. Everything becomes a lesson. Communication usually
works. Avoid conflict. Walk away if the situation is unchangeable or untenable.
3. Relationships: People reflect back to us what we are. Ask yourself what opinion you hold about
the relationship or yourself that causes it not to go the way you want. What is
the level of your giving and receiving?
4. Physical
living circumstances: “Are you at the mercy of circumstances?”
5. Finances: “Is your life contained and balanced within the money that you do have?”
6. Attitude to
the world around you: If you let the world affect how you feel, what you’re
saying is “I don’t make my own decisions.” Do not try to fix things. See the
world as an infinite evolution. Leave the world alone and concentrate on
yourself.
7. Ability to
handle conflict (divergence of opinions): To win a moral victory at the
expense of your sanity is dumb.
8. Ability to
handle stress: Stress is natural.
9. Psychological
state: Anguish is caused by the combination of physical state or opinion
10. Spiritual balance: Spiritual person is real. He doesn’t play games. He doesn’t have to make
excuses. “I am what I am.” He’s happy with either he’s not all-knowing or he’s
perfect.
See the fake character as real and struggle to maintain
that. Insecure people play out a character in a play, which is not truth.
3) The
Struggler’s Hit-Parade
Struggles crave acceptance. The strugglers have
low self-esteem. By lacking in identity, shift the attention from real inside
of themselves to the symbols outside of life. “Please accept me.” Cf. owning a
yacht. Acquisitions have short shelf life.
The strugglers often have big egos. Because they
talk themselves into greater opinions of themselves so they can sustain. Has to
be exaggerated because they don’t see worth in what they are. Ego personality
goes in the same direction as the higher self, things flow. Ego personality
lives the variation of the truth, which is its opinion.
Struggles feel that the struggle is noble. To
justify the fact that their life is out of control.
Strugglers set unrealistic goals. See only the
goals, not the path. He is trapped by his opinions of how to reach the goal. No
other possibilities exist. He often misses shortcuts.
Struggles lack understanding: physical plane and
how the marketplace works. Strugglers can’t be bothered. The world owes him a
living. He also lacks metaphysical knowledge. He goes after life and
pushes it away.
He worries what others think of them. They are
very social animals. They are not sure about themselves so they worry about
what others think of them. Only you have the answers. Others do not have all
the facts. People will always manipulate you into their way of thinking.
Strugglers lack stability. Stability is the key to
a worry-free existence. To have balance and stability, you have to exercise
control over every area of life. Develop the power to say no to the situations
that are not a part of your overall intention for yourself. You have to be
happy about your life right now so your energy moves forward: Don’t have to
settle with what you have now. There must be lessons for here and now.
Strugglers often lack concentration. Concentration
is a key discipline in personal growth and development. Concentrate on a goal
until it’s completed. Cf. “Thanks for calling, but I can’t talk to you right
now. Call back in Christmas.” Through concentration, you become powerful.
Strugglers have poorly-designed life styles. How
you get them with minimum effort. Cut out things that are superfluous. Hold on
to a life of simplicity.
Struggler lack order. Otherwise, you’ll dissipate
energy, wasting time in confusion.
Strugglers lack concerted action in the market place. Strugglers
don’t like concerted action.
4) Dumping
Struggle
1. Opinion: Struggle is always how you feel about
something, your opinions, laced. Laced with negative emotion. Change the way
you view things. You feel about something; opinion
2. Timing: Usually takes longer than we think.
3. Cast of Characters: Some are eminently suitable.
First, accept the help of others. Secondly, chooses your characters carefully.
You must get the most of them. Cf. popularity contest among kids. Never be
afraid to let someone go if they are not right.
4. Is the army marching with no boots? Have all the
components that you need? Just because you love somebody, there’s no reason to
marry him. A good general doesn’t commit his troops until he knows what he know
what he’s getting into. Cf. publishing a magazine
5. Am I trying to capture a castle I don’t really need or
want? Do you actually want the end result? Cf. dating a guy whose brother
you love. Give 5 good reasons for saying no. Look for the exit while walking
into a relationship or a project.
6. Am I resisting? You have go beyond rigid opinion.
There are always more than one ways of skinning a rabbit. Look for all the
angles that you may have missed.
7. Am I content with conditions? If conditions don’t suit
you, change them.
8. Am I in control? It’s OK to get what you want from
life.
5) Conclusion
Effort is a part of condition as a physical being.
Struggle is not natural. Have the courage to identify the causes of struggle.
All struggles can be eliminated.
Further, it may take time to reprogram your attitudes for
more carefree existence because struggle is a programmed response.
Place yourself in a non-confrontive mode. First, with
yourself and then, with the world around you. The freshness that new energy
bring to your life allows your emotions to take on resonating in a calm. In a
calm, it allows pull more opportunities to yourself because energy seeks its
own kind. Balance and great, good fortune can only come to a person who is
balanced and feels fortunate.
Toss out one aspect of you life each day that you causes
difficulty. Make a note of your progress.
Teach others that life is never meant to be a struggle.