{"id":186,"date":"2013-02-04T08:36:53","date_gmt":"2013-02-04T13:36:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/?p=186"},"modified":"2020-04-22T22:10:08","modified_gmt":"2020-04-23T03:10:08","slug":"developing-more-self-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/?p=186","title":{"rendered":"Developing More Self-Confidence by Stuart Wilde"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<ul type=\"disc\">\n  <li>Be careful about how you use your words\n    <ul type=\"circle\">\n      <li>Don\u2019t commit to things you can\u2019t do<\/li>\n      <li>Don\u2019t commit to things just please people<\/li>\n      <li>Don\u2019t say you\u2019re going to do something if you\u2019re not going to do it<\/li>\n    <\/ul>\n  <\/li>\n  <li>One of the greatest reasons for lack of self-confidence is lack of ability within an individual to accept change; change is a natural part of living<\/li>\n  <li>When the person is overtly externalized, they are constantly giving a part of their power to something else<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Creative Visualization<\/h3>\n<ul type=\"disc\">\n  <li>Seeing yourself going through the motions of the upcoming events, and seeing the motions positive, productive, allowing you the confidence that it will be OK. <br>\n    Setting on a new project, a new territory; see yourself moving through that territory &amp; see people reacting to you positively<br>\n    Cf. You have an interpersonal conflict with an individual<br>\n    Seeing them talking to you positively, responding to your energy, and not causing you the normal problems.<\/li>\n  <li>Both opinions are right to the individual, and there is always a middle ground where you can resolve the conflict<\/li>\n  <li>Get in the habit of putting your energy out ahead of yourself, and even though you do not know the exact circumstances that you find yourself in, you can visualize &amp; create a feeling of resonating positivity.<\/li>\n  <li><span style=\"background: yellow;\">To be confident, you do not have to know exactly what\u2019ll happen to you in any one given set of circumstances or events. All you have to know in your own creative visualization and your own feeling, no matter what happens, I\u2019ll feel assured and in control at all times.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul type=\"disc\">\n  <li>\u201cAm I the person in charge here this time right now?\u201d<br>\n    Become as independent as possible:<br>\n    Anytime you have to rely on another person, anytime time you have to give away your power to another person, you become subject to their destiny, rather than yours.<\/li>\n  <li>Meeting people in itself is a resource: the more people you know in the world, the more people you have interacted with, the more familiar you are familiar with the physical planet<br>\n    Meeting people is a part of abundance or making money<br>\n    Going out and meeting people is a part of creating your base; do it as a discipline<br>\n    You have to be in a relationship with them of one kind or another in order to claim the person as a part of your hemisphere of influence<\/li>\n  <li>As you move out of your lack of confidence, you\u2019re going to have to set up in your feelings an image of yourself that isn\u2019t quite true. Pretend that you\u2019re path when you\u2019re totally there yet. \u201cFake it \u2018til you make it.\u201d Create a feeling of \u201cI\u2019m confident.\u201d Even though there\u2019s a little part of you that absolutely knows that you\u2019re not confident. <br>\n    <span style=\"background: yellow;\">If you\u2019re nervous, try not to show it. If you have fear, control it. If you are uncertain, walk a little slower, but begin to resonate this confidence to the outside world.<\/span> <br>\n    By expressing confidence outwardly, gradually you obtain the confidence within.<\/li>\n  <li>For people to accept you, you have to put yourself in their shoes, and experience yourself with them. If you\u2019re open &amp; friendly &amp; cheery &amp; positive, and your appearance is clean &amp; tidy, they\u2019ll accept you.<\/li>\n  <li><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">How people react to you is impinge upon how strong &amp; confident you feel about yourself<\/span><\/li>\n  <li>Doesn\u2019t matter where this lack of confidence may be, where it is that you want to strengthen yourself; create this positivity as an absolute discipline in your life.<br>\n    Doesn\u2019t matter if it\u2019s really true just as long as you express positivity.<\/li>\n  <li><span style=\"background: yellow;\">Feel that the goal is already granted, that the goal is already inside your feelings<\/span><\/li>\n  <li>Detach somewhat from the goal. As you begin to move towards it, release the attachment or the emotion that you have about the goal. Sometimes things take longer than you think<\/li>\n  <li>What was important a month ago suddenly is not so important, but you had to travel along the path in order for you to discover the direction that you wanted<\/li>\n  <li>Head out, understating that you\u2019ll never know, and be happy in the not-knowing.<\/li>\n  <li>You had to be on the path in order for that opportunity to find you<\/li>\n  <li>The inner mind cannot tell the difference between fact and fantasy.<\/li>\n  <li>As you go into uncertainty, take time out to familiarize yourself with the situation<\/li>\n  <li><span style=\"background: yellow;\">Constantly expand your hemisphere of influence<\/span><\/li>\n  <li>Most accidents happen under emotional stress<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Be careful about how you use your words Don\u2019t commit to things you can\u2019t do Don\u2019t commit to things just please people Don\u2019t say you\u2019re going to do something if you\u2019re not going to do it One of the greatest reasons for lack of self-confidence is lack of ability within an individual to accept change; [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-186","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-metaphysics"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/186","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=186"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/186\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5145,"href":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/186\/revisions\/5145"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=186"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=186"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kidtao.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=186"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}